|Explaining why the Cozy Coupe was covered|
in bubble wrap was just the beginning.
We've been talking to Sidney about the big move for some time with mixed results. At first he was resistant, proclaiming that he didn't want to move and didn't want to go to school; at one point he even suggested that daddy move for his job and the two of us remain in Albania. (Sorry son, but that just wasn't going to happen). Gradually Sidney seemed to move towards acceptance and even showed a bit of excitement at the prospect of a new house, a new car, and new friends. But I knew we weren't out of the woods just yet.
We tried to keep the house as normal as possible in the weeks leading up to the move by not removing pictures from the walls or stacking boxes in plain sight. But when the movers arrived with their piles of boxes, bubble wrap, and packing tape, the reality began to sink it. Simultaneously curious and angry, Sidney followed them from room to room, watching what they were doing and shyly asking a lot of "why" questions. Being Albanians, they were wonderfully patient and answered each of his questions. However, their answers didn't please Sidney any more than mine did. And when it came time to actually pack up Sidney's playroom, it was just too much for my little boy to bear. There were so many tears and fits of anger, denial that we were moving, and unwillingness to be a part of the process. Ever so patiently Glenn and I would try to redirect him, showing him how much fun the boxes could be to play with, explaining that opening them in our new home would be like opening presents (as someone who has unpacked too many times in my life, I can only dream that this will really be the case), and talking about all of the fun the three of us would have together. We even talked about the number of plane rides we would take and how we would be able to ride trains all of the time when we reach our new destination. These distractions would momentarily work but all too soon the tears would return. For every two steps forward, there was one backwards. Just when I thought he was OK with his items being packed up, a favorite bag of toy airplanes which were meant to be hand carried, got boxed up. Fortunately the movers were quick to open the box and rescue them but the whole experience seemed to add to Sidney's anxiety.
|A make-shift bed because if "Sidney is in|
the suitcase mamma can't pack it."
He almost seemed relieved once we had dropped the nanny off at her home and we actually had an enjoyable Tuesday afternoon in our empty house. Sidney explored newly emptied spaces, asked a few questions, and even talked excitedly about the plane ride he was going to take. I naively thought we were out of the woods. But Wednesday morning arrived with stories of mummies invading if we left the house, a new found fear of heights (i.e. not being able to ride in airplanes), and an unwillingness to leave the house. Sidney persistently pulled the overfilled suitcases from the garage back into the house informing me that we couldn't move if we didn't have our suitcases so he was bringing them back inside. When our driver arrived with the car Sidney all but lost it. There were more painful tears and denials but eventually, after more coaxing and cajoling, we were able to get Sidney into the vehicle (sans suitcases--which were transported by the second driver after we left) with the promise of lunch. All was well until after lunch when Sidney wanted to return home. This time we distracted him with a promise of watching a movie in the hotel room. It worked temporarily...... until the meltdown at the airport........
And so the pattern has been continuing. Is there an end in sight? Yes. Do I know when it is? Absolutely not, although I hope it is sooner rather than later. It is so hard to watch my baby when he is sad and confused about what is happening around him. I am assuring him that everything will be fine and talking about the great new adventures that await us. He's taken to given me a look that makes him look wise behind his years when I tell him these things. But everything will be fine and what doesn't destroy us will only make us stronger. Sidney will be able to add a whole new set of memories to his Albanian ones and will hopefully soon forget about his anxiety surrounding this move. That is until we get to do it all over again in three years. Other parents have told me that moving is much easier when kids are younger so I can only imagine what I have to look forward to.